I’ve been reluctant to say that I recently turned 80. I feel as though I’ve done something wrong, or been careless, though it isn’t really my fault.
I’ve been reluctant to say that I recently turned 80. I feel as though I’ve done something wrong, or been careless, though it isn’t really my fault.
Eighty isn’t as bad as I feared, to tell the truth. This Island is well supplied with 80-year-olds who still swim, sail boats, build houses, and write poems and books. As a writer myself, I fit right in. Shake a tree on Martha’s Vineyard and a novelist falls out.
I swim, too, at Eastville Beach, one my favorite spots on the Island, though “swim” might be a misnomer. With my messed-up shoulder, a dog paddle is the best I can do. On a sunny summer afternoon, Eastville Beach is true cross-section of Island life — splashing kids, couples basking in their beach chairs, sea glass hunters, fishermen, families and groups of friends settled in with their coolers and umbrellas.
To the regular swimmers, the place is known as the Riviera, and we keep swimming after the summer ends and the water temperature drops below sixty. Salt water is healing, and cold salt water gives the endorphins a polar jolt. In November, the Riviera is my frigid Fountain of Youth.
Now that I’m 80, I understand the importance of the daily walk to the post office. I walk in the spirit of Kurt Vonnegut, who regarded the trip to the P.O. as a valuable human ritual, a chance to get out, move around, get a glimpse of the ongoing life all round you. My route takes me past Chicken Alley, the gritty thrift store that’s just waiting to be turned into a TV show. The daily local stories touch the universal themes: joys, fears, losses, ordinary human struggles.
My companion and wingman on these walks is a terrier named Cyrus, who greets everyone we encounter, both two-legged and four-legged. He packs a lot into a short meeting and then he’s ready to move along and continue his important investigations.
But he’s not rushed, and neither am I. You know the one about the farmer who takes his pig into the apple orchard, holding him upright so that he can eat the low-hanging fruit? His neighbor observes this and asks what he’s doing.
“Feeding my pig,” says the farmer.
“Doesn’t it take a long time to feed him that way?” the neighbor asks.
“Maybe, but what’s time to a pig?” the farmer replies.
Cyrus and I frequent the dog park and the beaches where dogs are welcome. After two years, we’re part of the local dog network. While we were walking along Beach Road, a woman in a truck slowed down and shouted at me: “Kona’s missing! Keep your eyes open!”
I recognized the woman but didn’t know her name. Kona — well, I know her name and the flop-eared sire of her pups. She was found safely, by the way.
For most of my life, I wore a shirt and tie to work. Now that I’m eighty, I dress for the dog park. My usual outfit is sweat pants and a Cottle’s hoodie. I have two of them, in fact, one a Carolina blue and the other a Harvard crimson. One day my son phoned from Whitefish, Mont., to tell me that he was looking at someone in a Cottle’s hoodie — the blue one.
To be clear, I do have some standards. If you see me at Stop & Shop in pajamas amd mismatched socks, please call my wife and tell her where I am. She’s lovely and kind and works at the hospital. I’m a house husband, sort of. When she comes home after work, she asks for the news, hoping I’ll have something to report, but I usually disappoint her.
Of course, I do vary my routine every now and then: I volunteer at a few places, meet friends for lunch, go to lectures, take classes. Every day at the writing desk, I try to make myself laugh and I’m always glad when I have a funny line to try out on her. Mostly, I’m glad to hear her news.
I’m not sure I could have lived such a peaceful life before turning eighty. I was too driven, and — I have to admit it — I’m still ambitious in certain ways. The book I’m working on is a mountain I’m determined to climb. I actually have goals for my swimming, and I’d like to shoot my age on the golf course. I am still trying to live up to the ideals of conscience and compassion that were imprinted on me in high school.
I read newspapers and books and try to understand something about our violent, heart-breaking world. And yes, sometimes despair grows in me, as Wendell Berry wrote, and I fear what my life and my children’s lives may be.
Still, I am mostly content, and more at peace than when I was 40 or 50 or 60. Back then, I thought about growing old in terms of the TR — the Time Remaining. Now, at 80, there’s much less of it, but here’s the paradox — it doesn’t feel that way. Somehow I’ve come to think in terms of days, not years, and to take the days as they come. Each one seems to contain realms of time, as much time as I could want or use.
Like many my age, I wake early, usually while it’s still dark. From the bedroom window, there’s a view over the lagoon, and many mornings I watch the sun rise. Especially in winter, daybreak is extravagant, a radiance of pink and peach and gold, the gaudy colors rising behind the dark silhouettes of the trees and over the still water.
I think then of the final lines of that Berry poem: “And I feel above me the day-blind stars Waiting with their light. For a time I rest in the grace of the world, and am free.”
Stephen Goodwin lives in Vineyard Haven.

Comments
This was excellent. More
John Reade VHThis was excellent. More please.
Beautifully written, touching
Karen Liffmann ProvidenceBeautifully written, touching and evocative.
This is lovely. It almost
Julie Stanton Oak Bluffs/AmherstThis is lovely. It almost makes me look forward to being 80. As you say, you haven’t done anything wrong. You’re doing it perfectly.
Stephen it’s special writing
Julie Melbourne,AustraliaStephen it’s special writing such as yours that warms my heart. Thank you.
An enjoyable read. That
Bob D. Haydenville, MA and, occasionally, ChappaquiddickAn enjoyable read. That balance between TR and a greater ability to enjoy time as it happens - it's a great gift of aging.
The New York Times reported
Richard Chused West TisburyThe New York Times reported today (Friday) that there’s growing concern about the declining population of wild turkeys in the south and midwest. Perhaps we should arrange to send some turkeys to Florida and Texas, dropping them off unannounced at the Tallahassee and Austin airports.
My tbought exactly. Around 4
Sandra lindheimer EdgartownMy tbought exactly. Around 4 I could round up around 15. I'm sure they would like the extra hour of sunlight and the warmth
Loved reading this, so
Jennifer Riseborough-Coor Cambridge & ChilmarlLoved reading this, so succinctly said and I am even considerably older but still enjoy most of every day.
Stephen, this was so lovely,
Susie Middleton West TisburyStephen, this was so lovely, brought a smile to my face. Berry fan here, too. Time to get you to write something else for the Vine! And happy 80th!
Articles like this are why I
Allen Reinhard NanucketArticles like this are why I subscribe to the Vineyard Gazette. At months away from 80, I share many of the thoughts, observations and experiences of the author, Mr. Goodwin. The piece is beautifully written. I do miss the Notebook by Bill Eville and appreciate his editorial eye to bring writing and stories like this to the Gazette.
Being 80 certainly has
Harry Oak BluffsBeing 80 certainly has exceeded my expectations about what I thought this old age would be like. However, I can’t help but think the Island has a lot do with my contentment, and yours, which seems evident in the Island lifestyle you convey in your wonderful piece. We are both fortunate.
This commentary is a gem! A
Peggy Cademartori Springfield, VAThis commentary is a gem! A salute to Stephen Goodwin and the heartwarming perspective with which he shares the richness life has to offer as the accumulation of years opens possibilities.
This is a beautiful read. I
Elaine M Meehan Brighton, MA ( Edgartown whenever possible)This is a beautiful read. I love it. 80 is the new 60 and in Island years it may even be 50. Appreciating the days we have and also realizing that we live in a world where violence seems like it's a favorite solution before any diplomacy is such a strange and sad thing. When you've been on earth for 80 years or if you've had a reason to learn to appreciate your life and days (life threatening illness/brush with death), you have to wonder how is it in 2023 there are people killing each other over religion, money, and power? I wish the world could live to walk Cyrus, swim in the cool Atlantic, walk through Chicken Alley and appreciate that their neighbors are on the lookout for a lost pet. I so hope I get to be 80 living the MV Island Life. It's not easy, but somehow the island has a way of ensuring the beauty of life shines through.
Thank you for sharing. I hope to see more from Mr. Goodwin.
You nourish us, Steve. Do
Anne Luzzatto VINEYARD HAVENYou nourish us, Steve. Do take some time away from the mountain you are climbing to supply more of these to Bill Eville, and Bill, please continue to invite Steve to write them.
Lovely writing and kind
Don McLagan Sarasota and ChappaquiddickLovely writing and kind sentiments. Upon turning 80, it was a big relief to stop worrying about turning 80.
While about 15 years from 80,
Abby Normal The RockWhile about 15 years from 80, what I realize is everyday is a present. Enjoy it. Have gratitude for all things, family, friends, and nature. All provide sustenance.
I keep feeling so fortunate
SKeating Princeton NJI keep feeling so fortunate to read things like this, and it keeps happening more frequently. Thank you, Stephen Goodwin, for this excellent, funny, poignant piece of writing on aging and longevity. I am now looking forward to the next 20 years to when I reach 80 (I hope! As there are no guarantees as we know." Jody Foster said this on the Today Show about how happy she was turning 60: "I don't wanna take credit for it though, 'cause I think it's some kind of hormone or something that got injected into my system, where suddenly the day I turned 60 was, you know, one of the best days of my life," Foster said.
Thank you for your beautiful
Molly Conole Oak BluffsThank you for your beautiful writing and view of this beautiful island we share. More, please.
Beautiful. I have 5 years to
Karen Mancinone Ocean Heights and ConnecticutBeautiful. I have 5 years to 80 and hope to feel as your lovely description... I would love to hear a story or two more... My family cottage goes back to 1903. I have enjoyed my great grandparents, great Aunt and Uncle, grandparents, aunts and uncles, cousins, and numerous friends every summer. Currently I am able to bring my grandchildren to enjoy the relaxing, peaceful, island cottage that my great grandfather built.
My daily walk is now taking
Dick Iacovello VHMy daily walk is now taking me 11 minutes longer than it did 5 years ago, But at 86 I'll not complain.
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