Ron Rappaport and Dennis daRosa: Middle row, third and second from right.
Courtesy Ron Rappaport

Child of Oak Bluffs, Island Father, Best Friend

Dennis daRosa, my longest-time friend in life, died last week.

Dennis daRosa, my longest-time friend in life, died last week. We were born three weeks apart in 1949, and have been the best of buddies since our earliest memories. We were both children of Oak Bluffs. My father had his doctor’s office on lower Circuit avenue and Dennis’s family had their store, daRosa’s, in the same location as it stands now. We were elementary school classmates and Little League teammates. From early childhood, we did everything together.

We both appreciated how lucky we were to be from Oak Bluffs. We were close to our parents and our families, and we looked up to the parents of other neighborhood children. It was the best of small-town America, with leading citizens like Roger and Estelle Surprenant, Howard and Marjorie Leonard, Bill and Mary Thomas, and numerous others looking out for us.

Circuit avenue had several of the same stores then as it has today — run by the parents of our schoolmates: Reliable Market, operated by Bobby Pacheco’s parents; Giordano’s Restaurant, with Willy Giordano at the helm; and the Red and White Store, where our classmate Alfred Noyes’s father was the butcher. There was Phillips Hardware, the Corner Drugstore, the Fruit Market, a dry-cleaning establishment, several restaurants (including Munroe’s, Irene’s Restaurant, Frosty Cottage and Gerry’s Coffee Shop). Oak Bluffs had The Flying Horses, two movie theatres, a bank, the post office, two candy stores, and a barber shop. In other words, the town had everything a child needed.

Dennis and I would ride our bikes to school in the morning, then ride them home again for lunch. When we started elementary school, in what is now the town hall, the Oak Bluffs High School was located across the street, in the building now owned by the Catholic Church. When we got our report cards, Dennis and I would go to Our Market and Amos Sylvia would reward us with Fudgsicles. We both went to Albert the Barber (Albert Soares) on Circuit avenue. It was a wonderful place to grow up — and we knew it.

Dennis was a great athlete and an outstanding Little League player. If the Baseball Hall of Fame was based on performance in Little League, Dennis could have been in it. He was the star of our team, as was his brother Tony before him. At the time, there were three Little League teams: the Oak Bluffs Red Sox, the Tisbury Tigers and the Edgartown Braves. Tisbury was always a tough opponent, but as best I can recall, Oak Bluffs won the championship every year. Dennis and I talked about one game almost every time we got together over the years — I walked twice, and each time Dennis hit a home run to drive me in. We won that game 4 to 3.

The Little League field was located where the ballfield is today — across the street from Sen. Edward W. Brooke’s house. Parents would park their cars around the field and honk their horns when someone scored or there was a home run.

We had a close-knit group of friends, and a number of our classmates (from our class of 14) remained on the Island: Alfred Noyes, Bernadette Rebello (now Crossland), Kathy Davis (now Sollitto), and Roberta Fontaine (now Hearn). Dennis was quarterback of the high school football team. After college at Babson, he returned to the Island, married Candy, his high school sweetheart, and went to work at daRosa’s. He became a leading citizen in the Oak Bluffs business community, serving as head of the Oak Bluffs Business Association for years.

His pride was in his family. He was a loving husband and a doting father and grandfather. He was so proud of his children, Stephanie and Phil. He was a caring in-law to Candy’s parents and sister Blue, a wonderful son to his parents, and a great uncle and sibling. And he was best friend to so many people that it’s hard to count.

We had a virtual Zoom birthday party for Dennis last month. Even amidst his battle with cancer, Dennis was the same person as he was at three years old: mischievous, fun, loyal, upbeat. He had the best outlook on life of anyone that I know. His presence alone could brighten your day.

Dennis truly was an all-around great person. In losing him, the Vineyard has lost someone wonderful.

Ron Rappaport is an Edgartown attorney who lives in Chilmark.

Comments

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 08/27/2020 - 17:37

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Steve Ewing Edgartown

Thanks Ron, great memories of a great guy. I didn't know Dennis that well but you could always feel his warmth when you walked in the store. You guys were too old but, for the record, Edgartown won in 1963.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 06:08

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Timothy D. Naegele Malibu

Nicely written, Ron. I hope all is well with you and your family. Best wishes always, Tim.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 07:24

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Mike Wallace Oak Bluffs

Dennis was such an important piece of the fabric of this town and this Island. An inspiration to me and so many people. I met him not long after I got here in 1982. Though he may have not know it, I always thought of him as a mentor. Taught me so much over the years , a lot in conversation by “ his machine” cutting binds of paper. His infectious smile and humor was a constant! I’m going to miss coming in the back door of DaRosas after hours to have him save the day on something I forgot to pick up . Thank you for all you have for this town, Island and all of us. Deepest sympathy to the entire DaRosa family . Rest In Peace Dennis.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 07:42

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John V Chilmark

What a wonderful letter. A beautiful tribute from the heart of a lifelong friend . Very uplifting at a sad time.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 10:03

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Ken Rusczyk Oak Bluffs

Thanks Ron for the memories of a profoundly wonderful person. Dennis always had time to talk to you, no matter what the topic he had an answer or suggestion. He love our unique community and proved it by being always involved in making It better. He will be missed.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 11:05

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Tim Toomey Edgatown

Thanks Ron.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 11:40

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Robert Skydell Granada, Nicaragua

A wonderful reminiscence of a place, a time, and one of its favorite sons. Dennis had an aura about him that always managed to brighten my day. He will be missed by all who were fortunate enough to have known him.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 12:21

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Nancy Parrish Vineyard Haven and Sarasota, FL.

Dennis was much loved. A kind and gentle soul. Always helping others. He touched countless lives and will remain in our hearts forever.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 15:26

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Bob Dusa Oak Bluffs

During a time of sadness and grieving for the loss of a Vineyard icon, thank you, Ron, for such a personal and emotionally uplifting tribute to your close friend, Dennis DaRosa. He will always be remembered for his easy smile and affable demeanor, and his devotion and contributions to Oak Bluffs and the Island, which have benefited all who live in this special place. My sincere condolences and deepest sympathy is extended to the DaRosa family, and to all whose lives he touched and have been effected by his loss.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 21:04

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Jeanna Oak Bluffs

As I read this I am envisioning all of it...like a movie. What a wonderful tribute; an incredible playback of childhood, family, friendship and bonds. Sorry for your loss, Ron. For everyone's loss. And thank you for sharing - and giving us a little peek of what life was like growing up in OB.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 08/28/2020 - 22:58

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David Wilson Oak Bluffs

A wonderful tribute, Ron. Along with the family, this is a great loss for the town. You reflection conjured my own childhood (with Boy Scouts substituting for baseball) including being in school with your brother, Alan. I'd only have to add coin diving off the steamboat wharf to your catalogue of OB boyhood rites.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 08/29/2020 - 07:39

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Jerry Visconti Vineyard Haven & Grindstone Island, Clayton, NY

Dennis was the kind of friend everyone would love to have. He will be missed.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 08/29/2020 - 15:35

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Renee Surprenant Nolan Oak Bluffs

Thank you Ron for that beautiful tribute. My heart is so heavy over Dennis's passing. I'm honored that you mentioned my parents, Roger and Estelle, as examples of upstanding citizens. We were all so fortunate to grow up in Oak Bluffs. I look forward to hearing Dennis's laugh coming from Phil. I could never tell their voices apart. Rest in peace, my friend.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 08/30/2020 - 17:16

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Joanne Lambert Oak Bluffs

Thank you, Ron. What a beautiful tribute to your friend, to boyhood friendship, to growing up in Oak Bluffs, and to Dennis himself. I moved here in 1978, to work at David’s Island House, and my son grew up with Stephanie & Phil. I can’t really imagine our town without Dennis. I’m still processing that I won’t see him at every event, or that I won’t walk into daRosa’s to compare grandchild pictures. My heart is heavy for his beloved family - and for you, Ron, his longest friend. ❤️

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Tue, 09/01/2020 - 16:09

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Pat alley Oak bluffs

Ron...wonderful tribute to DEnnis but did you forget to mention that you and he had your first crushes on your sixth grade teacher??????

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 09/26/2022 - 02:23

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Azi Oak Bluffs

i'm a bit late to the party, but that was a great article! my dad used to work for Dennis in the early 80s. he could fix anything. unfortunately, we found out he had leukemia. the acute, BAD kind. there was nothing anyone could do. we went everywhere. i was just 13. he rapidly declined and was clearly unable to work. Dennis, being Dennis, continued to pay my dad his regular salary every week anyway. until he died, which was only a matter of months. my mom was so grateful, and so was i! i'm friends with his kids, and whenever i would see him i would just hug him and thank him over and over. he told me to stop, it wasn't necessary, he loved my dad..but i couldn't. i had to maul him! you mentioned Albert Soares, the barber. i'm doing some genealogy for a webite Chris Baer is doing about Portuguese families on the Vineyard. Albert was my great uncle, married to my great aunt Ida. he was quite something, Uncle Albert was. 3-piece suits, pocket watches, moustache waxed and curled up..and a matching hat. i've heard some crazy stories about him! i just remember how polished he always was. he loved when we came to visit, all the way from Edgartown. Ida had a silver heart-shaped candy dish in the middle of the living room table and she ALWAYS let us have as much as we wanted. she never had children, and my father was her favorite cousin? i think? its so confusing. but she adored him and was devastated when he passed. i am trying to find out more information on Albert..he's something of an anomaly. i'm not sure where he came from. almost all of my family came from the Azores. but i can't find anything on him. anyway, thank you for that lovely tribute. i went to his memorial party at the Ag Hall in June. i am a big shark advocate, and have "adopted" two (a nurse shark, and a great hammerhead..Quansoo and Requin). you don't know what type of shark you will get, or if it's make or female. it's through UMiami. in honor of my dad and Dennis; friendship, i adopted a shark in their honor. i named it "Darwin"--"Dar" from DaRosa, and "win" from Goodwin. it was perfect! and they ended up with a lemon shark, a juvenile male. i had never even heard of lemon sharks! but they send you a picture and sure enough, they have a yellow tint. very cool. i know that my dad and Dennis are hanging out SOMEWHERE, talking about the latest 3D printers and such. i miss them both, and Uncle Albert as well. thank you again. Azi~x.

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